Dealing with breakups

 Hi,

To all those who have just stumbled upon this, it was originally a place that I created when I was about 15 focusing on fashion and beauty.... which is funny as my stye at the age was truly appalling, now 3 years later I have deleted all the original posts and its now a place where I want to be honest about life and me. When I was younger I used to love finding people I thought I had a ally in.
If you're looking for all the bullshit and fake personalities you often find on these blogs I suggest you just click away now. I am going to focus on life, like REAL life, the good the bad and the downright unfair..... sort of like I diary. Which is why I am going to avoid using peoples names.

And this first post is on breakups, and if anyone can offer an advice feel free. Me and my partner were together a year, and it was nearly perfect in every way, it felt like movie love, arguments were few and far between, the dates were magical and spontaneous, he apologised with flowers in hand at my door. Has anyone else had love like this? Its wonderful isn't it? But it all fell apart in less then a week, I watched it crumble and was powerless to stop it.

I am in utter heartbreak, and I have no clue what I have done wrong, he ended it without an explanation, without even a proper convocation. So if anyone reading this know that right this minute I am going through the same thing as you I know how you feel... like I really do know. This all happend 4 days ago, so I have made some progress from the original position of tears and tissues in bed.

One piece of advice I will give is turn you're phone off, now I know alot of people will disagree with this, because as painful as it is its important to force yourself into social activities, however this really helped me, as me and my partner were joined at the hip and I felt as though I was always checking my phone hoping for a message from him, and every time I looked and there was nothing there I felt my heart break a little more. So turn you're phone off now and put it in a draw, stay strong and commit to this decision as it allows you to get used to living a life with relying on communication with you're ex, and don't get me wrong, its so so difficult, but its achievable and has really helped me this week.

And women to women don't you let anyone tell you you're felings aren't valid, weather you 18 or 50 we all hurt the same way, so lets true nurture each other not reduce peoples emotions to nothing.
I think i'm going to do another post and things to help in a breakup, but I don't think i'm in the best place myself at the minute.

I'll speak soon.
Francesca x